Who are transgender people? These are people whose social and biological sex do not match. In modern society, we call them transsexuals, tranny and androgynous.
Who are transgender
The peculiarity is that transgender people have the right to choose how to express themselves in this world. Either, according to their biological sex, or desired. What's the problem?
Transgender people don't like themselves the way society accepts them. And those as they love themselves, their society rejects. How does it all start? It so happened that for the first time we begin to explore our gender characteristics as early as childhood. Foreign scientists claim that 3-4% of children with transgender manifestations
exist on our planet. Of course, most of them, already in adolescence, are determined to which half of themselves belong - gays or lesbians. But, as a rule, 1% of people remain who continue to declare their transgenderness and only over the years join one of the parties.
The phenomenon of transgenderness carries in itself, first of all, the discrepancy between the perception of oneself and one's innate sex. At about the age of 3 years, the child completes the stage of the formation of his “I” (the baby begins to consciously separate himself from the world and objects). "I" initially associates itself with a boy or a girl, so most often the child does not have any difficulties with this.
But it also happens that some children begin to have a feeling of discomfort and misunderstanding who he is. The kid starts asking questions: "Mom, dad, am I a boy or a girl?" And for others, problems are not visible, until adolescence. A striking example, a girl is a bully or a boy is a mama's son.
Famous transgender people - Angela Ponce
is a Spanish model, winner of the Miss Universe Spain 2018, the first transgender woman
to win a national beauty pageant.
How can parents recognize transgender in their children? Pay attention to your child's interests and hobbies (especially their non-standard). For example, a girl loves war games and cars, and a boy loves to play with dolls and dress up. Also, transgender people are more comfortable communicating in companies of the opposite sex (the boy likes to play with girls and vice versa). This happens for the time being. After a certain period, the child begins to guess that something is wrong. Children begin to believe that at some point a miracle will happen and they will be who they want to be. But the miracle doesn't happen. And then the child can withdraw into himself and shut himself off from the outside world.
This is how transgender people describe their feelings: "The feeling that you are in the wrong body", "the feeling that my body is abnormal." All this forms in such individuals a low self-esteem, a negative attitude towards oneself, a sense of guilt and thoughts of self-destruction. Very often, such psychological stress causes various severe mental disorders (depression, nervous breakdowns, attempts at suicide).
Already in adulthood, transgender people have to find a balance in society. Many are forced to decide whether to follow their feelings, or to agree to a forced gender role, or to find a compromise and become gay / lesbian. But there are also those who begin to lead a double life. At work, he is Ivan Ivanovich, and for friends - just Maria. Those who cannot play a double game decide to change their sex.
Famous transgender people - Wachowski sisters
Once brothers, and now sisters Lily and Lara Wachowski
are famous transgender filmmakers.
What should parents do? There is a rule of two in raising transgender children. The first is support. The second is acceptance. At first, most parents are shocked: “How so? My daughter doesn't want to be a girl. It's all my fault. I raised her wrong. Well, nothing, I'll cure her. " To begin with, you need to accept and realize that this is not a disease or a mistake in upbringing. This is the essence of the child. Until adolescence, you should calmly observe the development of the child. As in adolescence, the child will again go through the stage of gender identity. It may still change.
No need to get hung up on raising a non-transgender person. It is better to make an effort to create an environment for the full development of the personality, in which the child will feel comfortable with this feature. Each parent will be able to find a balance for themselves in supporting and accepting their child, after answering the following questions:
How do I feel when I think about my child being trans? Excitement or fear? Fear for the hard life of your child and the difficulty of adapting? Or fear of other people's opinions and condemnation in society?
How do you feel about transgender people in general? What do you know about them? Society develops, and with it, the attitude towards such people develops.
Do you blame yourself for this situation? The main thing to remember is that if you have a special child, this does not mean at all that the problem is in you as a person. So, as it is not an epidemic or a miscalculation in education.